A guest post by Heather Hodgin
Put Your Gremlin in Fabulous Shoes
Some call it Taming Your Gremlin, others call it loving
yourself. This would be the time for me
to tell you the clever thing I call it, but nope… I have no such clever name.
However, I am ready to address this hot topic! It’s time to be nicer to
ourselves and a great way to start is with positive self-talk. Did you know the
average woman thinks over 36 negative thoughts about her appearance every
single day? That’s over 252 negative thoughts every single week.
Now, to be fair I am an extreme optimist, but what if just
for today we flip the switch? What if our self-talk could be more positive?
What could we accomplish? Would we take better care of ourselves and be
empowered to meet our goals? I am definitely not advocating ignoring or trying
to squash negative feelings and emotions because those are very important too.
As super awesome human beings it is our right and responsibility to check out
this world in all of its colorful glory. However, I would be willing to bet if
we as beautiful intelligent women embrace ourselves and learn to turn those 36
negative thoughts or self-talk into something positive and constructive then we
would be generally happier, healthier and better for all of the people who
count on us every single day.
Besides being an optimist I am always looking for the tactical.
So, of course I am including a little list of tips and tricks to get this
fluffy pink ball of happiness rolling down the road:
·
Awareness
o
Catch yourself in the act! You know when you do
it. When your self-talk turns negative evaluate it…
- What is your evidence for and
against your thinking?
- Are your thoughts factual, or
are they maybe interpretations?
- Did you jump to negative
conclusions (this always reminds me of “Office Space”)?
-Are your thoughts actually true?
·
Reframe
o Every
situation has lots of different vantages. It’s up to you how you look at what
you bring to the surface with self-talk. Now that you’ve caught yourself doing
it, change it around…
- Are there other ways to look at
this situation?
- What else could this mean?
- Can you switch this thought to
be positive and/or constructive?
- Is this situation as bad or
dramatic as you are making it out to be?
- What is the best thing that
could happen?
- Is thinking this way making you
feel groovy or supporting your goals?
- If your negative thoughts end up
being true (bleh), what are some little things you can do to solve the problem?
·
Practice and Repeat
o Anything
worth doing (well almost anything) requires practice and repetition to improve.
Do it, do it and do it again. When you get tired of doing it, take a deep
breath, pause and then… Well, you know what to do.
This is not just another thing for your to-do list ladies, this
is a call to action. You are fabulous, gorgeous creatures with infinite
possibilities. Get out there, put on an outfit that makes you feel stunning, love
yourself and do great things! For all of you fellas, I think you are pretty
cool too, but this one is for the ladies ;)
My Outfit of the Day and IAPOMS
I love this outfit so much! It makes me feel completely fantastic
and stylish, but also really comfortable for a casual Friday at work.
The jeans are from Gap’s Perfect Boot collection in the
darkest wash I could find. I have worn these jeans to death, but they are my
favorite go-to for weekends, casual wear or pairing with a sparkly top and
heels for a night out on the town.
The shoes are cute little neutral flats from Jessica
Simpson’s collection. I generally wear flats at work because I feel
overwhelmingly silly in heels when working with people decked out in combat
gear or firefighting ensembles. I like the neutral tone because it makes my
legs look extra-long when I have them out and about.
The top is my favorite part of this outfit. It is from this
year’s American Rag collection. I picked it up at Macy’s and if I could have I
would have bought the collection in its entirety. I like things that have a
little something special about them. The flair at the waist and the lace
detailing on the back are divine.
I am a size 6 and I am proud of my size!
Beautiful!!!!!!!!
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